Is there a particular conversation that you’re struggling to have?
And You don’t have the right words to share?
Or an emotional internal conflict you are in?
You feel stuck and are unable to move forward?
Then the “HEAL” (Heaven on Land) framework may help.
It begins with understanding, What is Heaven?
Is it a mythical place in the afterlife with fluffy clouds, angels fluttering about strumming on harps, complete with gardens, rivers, and fruits of every kind?
Maybe. However, personally, I don’t find an external vision of heaven particularly useful or motivating.
So what is Heaven?
Heaven is a place where you are free to be yourself. Where you are loved and accepted for who you are. Where you feel safe, and your needs are met.
Heaven is a place where you can relax and be at ease. Where you are surrounded by people who support and respect you. Where you feel at home.
Heaven is a place where you can pursue your passions and reach your potential. Where you are challenged and stretched, but also nurtured and supported.
Heaven is a place where you can grow and evolve. Where you are constantly learning and evolving. Where you are expanding your horizons.
Heaven is a place of abundance. Where you have everything you need, and more. Where you are free to give and receive generously.
Heaven is a place of peace and harmony. Where there is no conflict or drama. Where everyone is supportive and loving.
Heaven is a place of connection. Where you feel connected to yourself, to others, and to the world around you. Where you feel a sense of belonging.
So, what is Hell?
Hell is the opposite of Heaven. It is where you are not free to be yourself. Where you are not loved or accepted for who you are. Where you do not feel safe, and your needs are not met.
Hell is a place where you do not feel at ease. Where you are surrounded by people who do not support or respect you. Where you feel you don’t belong.
Hell is a place where you cannot pursue your passions or reach your potential. Where you are not challenged or stretched, and you are not nurtured or supported.
Hell is a place of scarcity. Where you do not have everything you need, and you are not free to give or receive generously.
Hell is a place of sadness and misery. Where you are surrounded by people and things that make you unhappy. Where you are not free to enjoy life.
Hell is a place of conflict and drama. Where there is constant fighting and arguing. Where everyone is against each other.
Hell is a place of disconnection. Where you feel disconnected from yourself, from others, and from the world around you. Where you do not feel a sense of belonging.
So, what is Earth?
Earth is a place where you can create your own Heaven (or Hell).
How do we HEAL?
It’s by realising the universal law that…”cause and effect occur simultaneously.”
This is a very non-intuitive way to think about it. WE are so used to thinking that Cause precedes the effect. But try this analogy. Say a key is inserted in a lock and the key is now turning the lock. Which is happening first, the key turning or the lock? They’re both happening at the same time!
A stone touching the surface of a pond. The ripple is created the moment it touches. The cause of the stone touching and the ripple are concurrent…they’re SIMULTANEOUS!
So what? What is this…You are the cause. And everything that you do…EVERYTHING is concurrently creating ripples in the universe.
You are creating your Heaven (or Hell), with every action in this world.
The key word there is EVERY. With every passing action, every casual utterance, every stray thought you are creating your Heaven or your Hell. Concurrently. That is REALITY!
Last night, I had an argument with my wife. The hangover of the fight carried on till the next morning. I was moody even when I awoke. I was sullen through my shower, grumpy while getting dressed all the way till I grumbled to the door. After all, I was right. I was justified. She was the one who was wrong. Yet, it was I who was in my own little Hell. And I was miserable.
As I was about to walk out, I saw my wife. In a surprising moment of clarity, I asked myself, is the world I want to live in? What action could I take to create Heaven for both of us? Just that very thought, had the corner of my lips turning up. With a twinkle in my eye, a genuine smile on my lips, I wished her a warm goodbye. And just like that, the air thawed. It was as if our argument never happened.
What could have been a horrible morning, turned into something beautiful. In the grand scheme of things, it was a small moment. But at that moment, I created Heaven. What’s more, I took the first step towards creating Heaven for both of us.
Observe, I didn’t take any action. Just genuine thought was enough. It resulted in a spontaneous response that turned a toxic atmosphere to one perfumed with roses.
The HEAL framework doesn’t just work for interpersonal conflicts.
It could potentially work for any situation where you feel a lack of peace. You just can’t find the calm within.
If that’s the case. Here’s what you do:
Step 1: Realise that there is a space where everyone’s needs can be met (i.e. Heaven). Internalise that space within you. BE THERE. Feel it move you.
Step 2: Realise that you create your own Heaven. And you do that instantly. So now what can you think, say, do to give life to that.
(Pro tip: Focus on Step 1. Once you get there, Step 2, just happens. Often you needn’t even need to do anything).
What do you think? Is this too esoteric? Is it just me or can this work for others too?
Do give it a try. If this post touched you in some way, do drop a comment below. Would LOVE to hear back from you.